I Really Want My Husband To Willingly Come Back – I Don’t Want To Force Him

Sometimes when wives are separated and decide to go on a campaign to get their husbands back, they look at every possible outcome. They begin to play the “what if” game. They’ll ask themselves what if they got their husband back but ended up divorced anyway. Or, what if they could manipulate or pressure him to come back, but neither of them would be happy because he wouldn’t be enthusiastic.

A wife might say: “I really want to get my separated husband to come back home. I miss him more than I can possibly say. My life feels very different without him in it. I feel very strongly that he is going through a midlife crisis that might one day end. I also know from past experience that it’s pretty easy for me to make my husband feel guilty and for me to manipulate him. Admittedly, it has been harder to do that lately, when his midlife crisis seems to be clouding just about everything. But, I recently found out that I have a health issue. Honestly, my doctor told me that it is probably very, very treatable and it’s going to be absolutely nothing to worry about. However, I suspect that if I slant this in a certain way, my husband might come back to me out of worry or a sense of obligation. When I was discussing this with my friend, she asked me if I really wanted my husband back only because he thought that I was sick. I thought about it and have decided that no, I don’t want him back if I’m making him do something that he does not want to do. I don’t want him to come back all unhappy and sullen. At the same time, I really want him back. So do I tell him about my health issue?”

No one can decide that for you. I can tell you that during my own separation, if my husband had a health scare, I would have wanted to know. And if I had one, I would have shared that. The reason is that we were still married. And although our marriage wasn’t great at the time, married people should still be there for one another regardless of whether the marriage is struggling. I think that you can certainly tell your husband about the issue while being completely honest about your prognosis and stressing that it’s treatable.

Why A Gradual Pace Can Increase Enthusiasm: I also understand not wanting your husband to begrudgingly come home. My thought process was the same, which is why my husband and I very gradually reconciled. We did it in very small steps so that there was minimal pressure and either of us could have backed out if we wanted. This gave each of us the confidence that we were there because we wanted to be.

It sounds as if you’re just starting on this journey. So, you may not have done a lot of counseling, self help, or self work meant to help you discover and then work on what lead to the separation in the first place. I realize that a huge contributing factor is likely your husband’s midlife crisis, but it’s often a mistake to blame everything on that and just wait for it to pass. Instead, you want to be proactive and to actively work to make your marriage better. As things gradually start to improve, you can have the confidence that you are not having to twist your husband’s arm to get him to be receptive to you.

Why Don’t Husbands Just Leave Their Wives If They Want To Cheat?

Sometimes, wives are at a loss as to why their husband cheated while still married to them. They are adamant that if he was unhappy and wanted to be with someone else, they would have given him a divorce. That way, he wouldn’t have needed to lie and to be so deceitful. Of course, this thinking assumes that the husband actually wanted a divorce. Not all men who cheat have any intention whatsoever of ending their marriage. Actually, many do not. This is what many wives (myself included) have trouble understanding what they are dealing with.

One might say: “now that I have caught my husband cheating on me, I’ve been doing some snooping. This woman was coming onto my husband two years ago. I have an email between them where my husband admits that he ‘is flattered’ by ‘her offer,’ but he insists that while he is married, he can not have another relationship. He insists that this ‘is just not who he is.’ He basically wished the other woman well and told it might be different if he were not married, but he insisted that he was married. I suppose that this should theoretically make me feel better, but it doesn’t. Because two years later, she somehow wore him down. The thing is, though, he did not leave me. He did not end his marriage, which is what he insisted would have to happen. In fact, I honestly do not see a huge difference in our marriage two years ago and now. We were happy then and I thought that we were happy now. We were still having regular and good sex. He was still being sweet and thoughtful to me. But I found a hotel receipt and then an email from her saying she’d been fantasizing about being with him for years and now it had finally come true. According to my husband, it only happened once and it just started. He swears that he wasn’t going to leave me, that he still loved me, and that he just made a mistake after having too much to drink. I don’t buy it. He’s been spending more and more time at the office lately, so I think he’s probably been circling her and trying to get up his nerve. I actually think that he probably made the decision for it to happen (or suspected that it might happen) far sooner than it actually did. I don’t buy that it was just an impulsive, one-time thing that was never going to happen again. So I find myself wondering why my husband didn’t just show the integrity I know him to have and then tell me he wanted a divorce before starting a relationship with her. Why not leave me? Of course, now he’s begging me not to leave him. But it’s sort of falling on deaf ears. I certainly would rather not lose my marriage, but I feel the same way that my husband claimed to feel – that if you are married, that’s it. You don’t have other relationships. If you want to have one, then you end the marriage and then you have the relationship. My husband swears he doesn’t want a relationship with this woman. He only wants a relationship with me. It just doesn’t make sense.”

I totally get your confusion. Your husband’s behavior does not fit with his words and his character. Unfortunately, I know first hand that men who are otherwise good, upstanding human beings can make colossal mistakes such as this one. In fact, the mistake is so catastrophic that we just can not fathom how he’d risk the very marriage he claims that he wants. I can’t pretend to understand the thought process of a man who cheats. I’m a wife who dealt with this. But I can share what I hear from men in this type of situation.

Some of them will tell you with what sounds like complete sincerity that they love their wife and are desperate to save their marriage. They will cut off the affair immediately and not talk to the other woman ever again. Instead, they will spend their time pursuing the wife that they betrayed. Or they will divorce (because the wife insists upon it,) but they will spend a good bit of time regretting their mistake. I truly believe that there ARE some men who cheat who still love their wife and who never intended to end their marriage. Are they attempting to have their cake and eat it too? Yes. Does this excuse them? No. But they fully believe that they love their wives and they typically beg her not to leave.

I know that it doesn’t make sense. And only your husband can tell you what changed in two years (although he himself may not totally understand this.) He may claim that nothing changed when it comes to his feelings for you. Men will often tell you that they cheated at a time in their life when they were off in some way. This might have to do with their jobs. Or with their aging parents. Or with their health. Or with what they perceive as their fading looks or vitality. But many will absolutely insist that it had nothing to do with their wife.

Get The Life You Want By Attracting Abundance Through Visualization Meditation

You invest in coaches, courses, programs, events, books, you name it!

Does visualization meditation really work to get the life you want while in this world?

I mean to actually accomplish what we want in life and for attracting abundance, does meditation for prosperity help?

And it all helps for a little while, but nothing seems to really offer you the personal transformation you’re seeking.

Can we TRANSFORM?

Because 98% of human beings are doing it all wrong, that’s a difficult question for many.

Many people run around, looking externally, perhaps like you, “I’ll get this job or I’ll start this business, or I’ll do this to have this partner.”

Or you’ll invest in this course so you can learn how to get the life you want… the list goes on and on.

You need to find someone who is teaching you how to transform your INTERNAL visualization meditation game.

Get aligned with creating the life you want, internally, from within you, and then reflect your creation to your material world.

You can take all the action, invest in all the courses and execute the strategy, but ultimately what you will find is, it won’t last, it won’t happen, or even if you do have some success, it will happen really slowly.

Give me a little YES nod if you know you need to work on your internal visualization meditation game?

I am telling you as living proof, really, if everyone just followed the right strategy, everyone would literally begin living their dream life.

It really does come down to creating it, first, from within.

Think about that flash of: “Why them?… and not me?”

When you see, someone living an abundant lifestyle… someone you know is just a “regular Jane or Joe”…

I want you to view this video below, because like me, I’m sure you’ve felt that little twinge of envy and painful thoughts of lack before…

If you are actually serious about creating wealth, abundance, and manifesting your dream life, then it is all about your visualization meditation game from within you.

I don’t just mean, if you love yourself you will create the life you desire because even though loving yourself is imperative, it isn’t enough if your mindset isn’t on point!

You know that financial freedom, lifestyle, relationship, success and happiness, even the dieting success, you SO crave?

You know how you keep trying to figure out what exactly you need to DO in order to manifest and get the life you want?

Previously I did a review session where we discussed manifestation techniques to show how manifesting really works.

I mean, again, it doesn’t matter if it’s relationship struggles, or financial worries, of self-confidence issues, or fitness and dieting hurdles, or whatever…

You KNOW that successful others are not any more SPECIAL than you… not SMARTER than you… or more hard WORKING than you…

Then you know why I am living proof of why I love this video I urge you to see, if you know my story.

You just KNOW that those successful others [have some secret… ] that you don’t.

Am I right… or am I?

The Course in Miracles states, “Dreams show you that you have the power to make a world as you would have it be, and that because you want to see it.”

What I want you to understand is it’s not about the strategy.

The Key To Success And Lessons Learned To Create The Life You Want

When I ‘d read and studied the lives of highly effective people who have ever walked this Earth, I had no concept just how much my life would be impacted by my findings.

Because these people who ‘d owned the key to success were able to willingly without effort extend their natural light of power, it wasn’t.

The Course in Miracles states, “Miracles are seen in light, and light and strength are one.”

Actually it was a lot more exceptionally easier than that.

Many were able to realize concepts on the meaning of success that the majority of people never could comprehend deeply, let alone on the surface level, of the actions needed to develop a process and follow a blue print that helps successful people grow.

After much intensive research of my own I was left with some golden nuggets that will undoubtedly assist you in business and personal success in life.

Here are a handful of lessons I have actually gained from successful others:

A lot of individuals get captured up in the “how” to do something.

I mean that mega-million dollar thinkers do not consciously operate in that manner, and once they make a decision they look for the options to press forward in life.

Make sure your goals are congruent with your leading a few certain values in life.

Think of how lots of times have you been provided an opportunity and the only thing the person could tell you is how much cash you’re going to make?

Some individuals may not achieve success in the equity and bond markets because they would feel like they were taking advantage of people throughout tough times.

Another person in that exact scenario may view themselves as being a consultant to somebody who would otherwise lose their nest egg and get absolutely nothing from it.

As you can see it’s the same scenario however everyone has a various value system.

This is not about best or incorrect, but it is about you just being clear and concise about your individual values and make sure your company, business, and/or personal life is in alignment.

When you’re down to your last five to ten dollars you might be one idea away from the real meaning of success, even

While one success story claimed “she was shaking and scared she knew she had some options to consider.”

Have you ever been at a branch in the road and had to make a choice?

“After being on a job that was making me sick I had come to my breaking point,” another one said. He added, “I understood I too had a decision to make and needed to come up with a newer plan.”

Think about when there is something you have wished to achieve, but hesitate to step on faith?

Exactly what if you took just a small step today toward that objective and begin to get the life you want?

Get a packet of those yellow sticky notes and the next time you feel scared simply take one little action, because if it worked for this millionaire it can work for you, too.

There are several old sayings that parallel with, “You get what you expect in life.”

Now the trick to the meaning of success is you don’t need to get caught up in pushing too hard on the procedure, but rather enjoying the process.

Commit results to the outcome and be open to permitting the beauty of intent and synchronicity to work in your favor.

Build your life and purpose for the future.

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These lessons and other new age thoughts and suggestions ought to be a mantra that is taught for any brand-new business owner.

Numerous individuals start off just focusing on how they are going to produce income.